Congratulations! You’ve gotten engaged to the love of your life and are moving full speed ahead towards the big day! While this is the happiest time of your life, I know it can also be one of the most stressful. That’s why I’m here with a few tips to take you “From The Press” with a little focus on passion and purpose.
Work Within Your Budget. Whether it’s you and your fiancé – or your family footing the bill – be sure to establish a budget and work within it. A gorgeous wedding need not make you – or your family – go bankrupt! Talk about stress!! Early on, talk with your fiancé and/or family and establish a budget that works for everyone. Not only does it give you an idea of what you can comfortably spend but it will also help you plan your wedding in a much more clear and organized manner. Unlimited options can often lead to indecisiveness and loads of stress! So view a budget as your #1 ally in planning a wedding.
Remember It’s A Wedding For TWO. While we all love the blush & bashful pink Pepto-Bismol wedding of Shelby in Steel Magnolias, in real life we need to remember that there are two people’s tastes to consider for the big day. Be sure to factor in what delights your fiancé – as well as you – when planning your wedding. I know a lot of guys say they don’t care but “not caring” doesn’t mean they want it to be a pink party for one. Think of some ideas for including your groom. Incorporate your fiancé’s favorite color(s). Delight him by providing some groom’s cake options that thrill him! Include some of his favorite foods on the menu. Ask him to pick the attire for the groom’s party. And if he has no opinion on those? Just be sure to incorporate some masculine elements along with the feminine. While it may not be your vision of the picture perfect wedding you always imagined, a happier groom makes for a happier wedding and a happier wedding makes for a happier marriage. And isn’t that what it’s all about?
Instead of a scene straight out of Steel Magnolias, try to incorporate both of your tastes and interests for a setting showcasing you as a couple.
It’s important for your fiancé to feel confident and comfortable on your wedding day, so let him take part in the planning by picking the attire for the groom’s party. – A.K. Vogel Photography
Mind your Manners. While Emily Post says you have three months after the wedding to write thank you notes, why not get a head start? I recommend starting a spreadsheet or even a simple list where you list the date you received the gift, the name of the gift-giver and a detailed description of what the gift was. By expressing your gratitude as you go, your thank you notes after the wedding won’t seem so overwhelming. And that leaves more time for connecting with your new spouse!
Being Considerate Counts. While your wedding is obviously the most important thing going on in your life, not everyone will feel the same way. Don’t get me wrong, your employer, friends and family are DELIGHTED for you, but they don’t share the same passion and focus as you do when it comes to all of the details of the big day. First and foremost, don’t neglect your job. A study shows that 77% of women are using their work hours to plan their wedding. While this is fine during lunch and breaks, be sure that you’re getting your work done first! You don’t want your wedding to be the reason you get fired! Priorities, people! Next, while your brain may constantly be filled with bridesmaid dresses, centerpieces and cake options, be sure to engage with friends and family and ask what’s going on in their lives. A wedding – by nature – makes you feel like the star of your life, but don’t forget to support those who are offering support to you during this exhausting and exciting time. After all, once the wedding is over, you will need those people in your life to support you in your new marriage.
While it seems like your engagement is simply all about planning the big day, it’s really about planning a life together. The memories you’re making right now are memories that will last a lifetime. Believe me, you’ll look back on this time with fondness one day in the not-so-distant future. For now, be in the moment, enjoy this process of planning and appreciate those loved ones along with you for the ride of your life.
Daniel Michael Photography
Next up on From The Press? Starting a date night tradition during your engagement that will last throughout your marriage.