With all of the research options for brides-to-be these days, it can get a little bit overwhelming. There seem to be magazines, blogs, websites, podcasts, television shows, books and wedding experts everywhere you turn. And while this can be super-helpful, it can also be a bit confusing when it comes to making choices for yourself.
With all of the choices available, there is one expert that possesses everything you need to know when planning your wedding and – best of all – it doesn’t cost a thing: You. After all, who knows better the things that delight and inspire you? By looking inside yourself and looking at what things really please you in life, you’ll be able to better decide which aspects will make your wedding as perfect as you’ve always imagined.
Define Who You Are. Write down a list of adjectives that comes to mind when thinking about yourself. Think of everything that has happened thus far in your life that has defined who you are and everything you dream of happening in the future. From this, play a game of word association and see what comes up. Perhaps a certain color keeps coming up or a vacation spot you love or maybe you think of how important your sisters are to you. Regardless, this will help steer you towards making choices for your wedding that really represent who you are – and are becoming – as a person.
Play Favorites. While people often say, “Don’t play favorites,” in this case that’s exactly what I want you to do. I want you to make a list of your favorite things. Under “My Favorite Things,” write down everything you know you love. Some possible favorites? Favorite colors, foods, restaurants, movies, books, vacation spots, celebrities, games, websites, friends, songs, quotes/verses/prayers and more. Really, this list could be endless. But we just want you to get clear about what you want. Once you have your list of favorites, ask your groom to do the same. This way, you can cross-reference and see what things really make you tick as a couple.
Get A Visual. Is there a wedding scene in a movie that made you look forward to your own wedding one day? Is there a pinner on Pinterest that you really identify with in terms of style and aesthetics? Was there a celebrity wedding in a magazine that you looked at over and over again until the pages were tattered? If so, revisit these places. This is how you can see what elements get you most excited and inspired. While you may not be able to afford a million dollar wedding, glean from these people, places and things what you can. By revisiting these sources of inspiration, you’ll get clear about your vision and it will make it that much easier to turn a dream into a reality.
Keep A Budget. Most importantly, remember that although this is your special day you need to keep your budget realistic and stress free for you and the people you love. If your parents or you and the groom are paying for the wedding, don’t break the bank. The last thing you want to do is begin your marriage full of debt. Your wedding doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to be special. It is about the two of you. Some of the most beautiful ceremonies have been simple and romantic surrounded by family and cherished friends surrounding you both. So remember, wedding style isn’t about extravagance it’s about doing the best with what you have.